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Managing Interview Tension

Managing Tension in the Interview

From Career Tips, 2010 Volume 10, October 2010


Woman In Tension
Photo by Uday Mittal on Unsplash

Candidates tend to come into an interview with a single-minded agenda, "getting the offer." In the process of working hard to achieve that goal, they often miss a critical element: Tension Management!


The same is true for consultants coming into a meeting with a prospect - they are so focused on their agenda (selling their services) that they often miss out on the subtle changes in tension that are so critical to success.


The other extreme is the candidate who has virtually no agenda, who simply follows the interviewer's lead on everything and hopes this will ultimately lead to an offer. This is a recipe for disaster, especially if leadership potential is at all part of the hiring decision.


Let's look at 3 levels of tension you want to manage in the interview.


1. Your own personal tension. 


Few situations are as tense as a job interview. This is where the rubber hits the road - a make or break situation for landing the job that will end this protracted search.


You need to harness that tension, both reducing it to a manageable level and converting it from high stress to empowerment, confidence, and engagement.


    • With lots of preparation, including several hours of serious role play to hone your interview skills, you should be able to reach the required level of confidence in your abilities.


    • Additional role play on specific areas with which you are uncomfortable, or that haven't gone well in past interviews, is also valuable.


  • Visualization exercises immediately prior to a specific interview can help you reach a state of calm that can carry you through the initial stress of walking into unfamiliar territory.


One caveat - don't over-prepare. If you carefully craft and memorize the "best" answers to interview questions, they cease to even be "good" answers, because they become rehearsed and artificial rather than conversational. Focus more on technique and psychology than the exact words you might use.


In fact, if you find yourself getting a bit cocky about your ability to land this particular opportunity, you might want to think about ways you can raise the bar for yourself - to actually raise your own tension level a bit to get you re-engaged and re-energized.


2. Relationship tension. 


You want to minimize this as quickly as you can. You want me (as the interviewer) to see you as someone I want to be working with every day, someone I will enjoy having on my team, and in whom I have confidence and can always rely on to be watching out for my best interests.


Those little things you do at the start of the interview to build rapport and create a connection are vital - even just walking in smiling and giving a firm handshake. (I'm still shocked at how many people fail even this simple test!)


You need to reduce the relationship tension quickly so that the interviewer can focus on the bigger question of whether you are the person he/she wants to hire. As long as this tension is high, it will be a serious distraction for both of you, and you won't be fully engaged in the critical conversation you need to have.


3. The interviewer's tension. 


Most candidates fail to recognize this, or to respond properly to it if they do.


A core principle of tension management is that people pay attention to their tension. You want this working for you.


You might think you should reduce the interviewer's tension. Absolutely not!


There are actually two dimensions to interviewer tension that you are trying to manage. You do want the interviewer's tension about whether you can do this job to be as low as possible, but you want tension relating to the decision to hire you to stay high enough that they want to act right away!


So how do you manage this latter "hiring" tension?


Follow the interviewer's tension (and observe it). When you see the interviewer getting excited about the conversation and showing a lot of passion, you are headed in the right direction. When you sense he/she is backing off and showing less interest, you've made a wrong turn and need to find ways to get back to riper areas.


To uncover (and accentuate) this positive tension, get into challenges. That is where you are most likely to uncover what is really important to the interviewer, and the drivers that will lead to a hiring decision. See these for more on this.


Here's a concrete example to illustrate what I'm talking about.


Suppose at some stage in the interview you are asked how you would solve a key problem faced by the company. This may also take the form of asking you to come in prepared to present a marketing plan or to make a presentation on your solutions to that problem.


What do you do?


Most would tend to do exactly what was requested, and would try to provide as detailed a plan or solution as possible to demonstrate that you can solve their problem. Big mistake.


By providing me a detailed road map to solve the problem, you reduce both my tension about your ability to do the job AND my hiring tension. The problem I presented no longer seems so insurmountable, because you have just given me the road map to its solution. Now I can see ways to solve it that don't have to include you.


Instead, you want to show me that a solution exists, that you HAVE or CAN EASILY DEVELOP a road map without actually giving me the critical details that would let me feel I can follow it without you. Navigating the challenge that way will reduce my tension about your ability to do the job while INCREASING my hiring tension. I need to 'buy' you to get the actual solution!


For more on this, see "Interview or Free Consulting".


So, for your next interview, or meeting with a potential client, I want you to ask yourself this question:


"Am I properly managing the interviewer's tension?"


If not, and you need support through coaching and role play to master this, maybe we should talk... just fill out my Career Search Assessment survey, and we'll set up a time to chat.


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