I like to play both Pickleball and Tennis. I enjoy a challenging game with strong opponents. But I enjoy it much more if the opponents are also enjoying themselves. That doesn’t mean they have to actually win – just that we all have a good game. If their enjoyment is contingent on winning, that’s […]
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“People are not inherently resistant to change—they change all the time.” Most change initiatives fail for one simple reason: They misunderstand why people resist. “People are not resistant to change—they are resistant to losing control.” In this Influential Leadership Tip, we break down the real driver behind influence, change management, and
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I had a dream that really fit in well with the posting I did on Martin Luther King Jr. day, about a lesson from his final essay. In the dream, there was a stern woman on a pedestal who was there to lecture us on something. She was looking at everyone with disdain.
I wrote recently about the dangers of venting in public. What sometimes creeps up on us is a discussion started by others that turns into a venting session – a pity party. I recommend gracefully exiting. When you do get sucked into a pity party, it may feel good at first, because you
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We all vent at times. That’s healthy. It releases the valve on the pressure cooker that holds our frustrations in check. It lets them out so we can reset a bit. But how and when we do it can affect relationships and our reputation. I often see posts on LinkedIn where someone
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So often we are careful to have a Plan B in case we need to pivot. People who are skeptical about how the direction in which we are headed might work out ask what Plan B is. Friends and loved ones in particular tend to ask us about those alternatives. But you know
Helene and I listened to Rob Lowe’s memoir, “Stories I Only Tell My Friends“, which I would highly recommend for any fan of Lowe, and to anyone who enjoys behind-the-scenes stories of people involved in film and TV. He narrates the audiobook himself, which makes it a really fun listen. Anyway, riffing a bit
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“When things are quiet, don’t assume things are well.” In an interview I read with Austin McChord, founder of multiple successful companies. He was asked how, as a first-time CEO, he stayed ahead of what his company needed. One thing he talked about was recognizing the signs that people are drowning—when they
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I was listening to a segment in Tim Ferriss‘ book Tools of Titans, and heard him talk about starting a fitness plan by doing just one pushup per night. You can watch him talk about this in a short reel on Facebook here. Now, on the surface that might sound ridiculous.
“Being in transition is a good time… it enables you to take stock.” “Your job is to find the next job… that’s a full-time job.” Many know my good friend Marty Latman as a Master Networker. He runs multiple career networking groups that have supported thousands in their career searches. He is a sought-after
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