“If I’m late, don’t waste everyone’s time catching me up.” Don’t you just hate it when you show up for a meeting on time, and others stroll in a few minutes late. Then the meeting starts, a senior person comes in later, and the organizer decides to recap for them whatever has already happened, in […]
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“You can’t have everything you want— but you can almost have anything if you’re willing to make a choice.” In our last two Influential Leadership Tips, we talked about (1) the real reason behind resistance to change, and (2) the concept of the Threshold of Activation. Now let’s look at how this works in
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How often have you called someone, and gotten a generic “Leave a message after the beep”? Or not even a message at all, just a beep? You’re left wondering if you’ve dialed the right number, or perhaps been given the wrong number. Now think about what the other person’s reaction might be, if
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“If no action is happening, it’s for one reason only— you haven’t reached the threshold of activation.” Crossing Paths by Seward Johnson, at the Grounds for Sculpture Last time we talked about the real reason behind resistance to change: “People are not resistant to change—they are resistant to losing control.” In this
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As a teenage driver, I was very concerned with following the rules of the road. I had a friend who laughed at me because late at night, with no one else on the road, I would still be using my turn signal in his neighborhood. Would there have been much risk if, late at
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Venting can be good for us. It releases the valve on the pressure cooker that holds our frustrations in check. It lets them out so we can reset a bit. I recently wrote about some of the problems when we do it the wrong way or in the wrong venue. So now let’s look
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In my last post, I talked about the pitfalls of over-competing. I shared how I try to adjust the level of my play at Pickleball (or Tennis, or anything competitive) to the people I’m playing with. This morning I started out playing in a foursome who were significantly below the level at which I’m
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I like to play both Pickleball and Tennis. I enjoy a challenging game with strong opponents. But I enjoy it much more if the opponents are also enjoying themselves. That doesn’t mean they have to actually win – just that we all have a good game. If their enjoyment is contingent on winning, that’s
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“People are not inherently resistant to change—they change all the time.” Most change initiatives fail for one simple reason: They misunderstand why people resist. “People are not resistant to change—they are resistant to losing control.” In this Influential Leadership Tip, we break down the real driver behind influence, change management, and
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Did you know that the inaugural Winter Olympics in 1924 in Chamonix, France included the sport of Curling? I’ve always been fascinated by the concept of the sport, where someone pushes a curling stone down the ice, and then players with brooms furiously sweep around it as it glides, trying to affect its trajectory
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